Today's most emailed
I was interested to see that the most popular emailed story on nytimes.com today is Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying. I emailed the article to Matt yesterday. Maybe you mailed it to someone too. Having been together for 5 years we’ve discussed all of these questions at one point or another, and some of them over and over. And I’m sure some will be discussed again and again throughout the course of life.
A couple of my answers:
Question 7 was a no-brainer.
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
I need Jay Leno to put me to sleep at night and Meredith Vieira to get me going in the morning. Matt needs it so he can flip to Sports Center when I’m in the middle of watching whatever I’m watching. But seriously, I understand why people would not want a TV in the bedroom. The bedroom is for intimacy and conversation blah, blah, blah.
You laugh, but Questions 11 and 12 are dear to my heart:
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
Matt and I have very caring families, and with that said even the best family can rock the boat once and a while. I know what annoys him and he knows what annoys me. We actually discussed this in the car other night. We decided we will mentally block out what we don't like, smile, and move on. I've heard some wacky in-law stories recently so I'm quite thankful for our farely drama-free situation. But as I’m learning, it takes respect, communication and understanding to keep family happy.
My grandmother’s nurse moved into her daughter’s house when her grandchild was born not long ago. The nurse insisted that she sleep in the same room as her daughter and the baby, and made her daughter’s husband move to another room. He eventually moved out (and back in not long after). That is a prime example of too much parental interference. My advice: don’t let that happen.
Next, Question 14 – one of my all time favorites.
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
This is a challenging one to answer because both Matt and I are so close to our families. We currently live in Chicago where we are near his parents, and I get a little teary every time my family gets together without me. At the same time I am an opportunist. If either of us happens to get our dream job in let’s say, St. Tropez, then who knows…Matt’s dream job is at Bono’s hedge fund, Elevation Partners, based in California. If he got a job there, then you bet I’m there. So if anyone has a Bono connection please let me know.
A couple of my answers:
Question 7 was a no-brainer.
7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?
I need Jay Leno to put me to sleep at night and Meredith Vieira to get me going in the morning. Matt needs it so he can flip to Sports Center when I’m in the middle of watching whatever I’m watching. But seriously, I understand why people would not want a TV in the bedroom. The bedroom is for intimacy and conversation blah, blah, blah.
You laugh, but Questions 11 and 12 are dear to my heart:
11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?
12) What does my family do that annoys you?
Matt and I have very caring families, and with that said even the best family can rock the boat once and a while. I know what annoys him and he knows what annoys me. We actually discussed this in the car other night. We decided we will mentally block out what we don't like, smile, and move on. I've heard some wacky in-law stories recently so I'm quite thankful for our farely drama-free situation. But as I’m learning, it takes respect, communication and understanding to keep family happy.
My grandmother’s nurse moved into her daughter’s house when her grandchild was born not long ago. The nurse insisted that she sleep in the same room as her daughter and the baby, and made her daughter’s husband move to another room. He eventually moved out (and back in not long after). That is a prime example of too much parental interference. My advice: don’t let that happen.
Next, Question 14 – one of my all time favorites.
14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?
This is a challenging one to answer because both Matt and I are so close to our families. We currently live in Chicago where we are near his parents, and I get a little teary every time my family gets together without me. At the same time I am an opportunist. If either of us happens to get our dream job in let’s say, St. Tropez, then who knows…Matt’s dream job is at Bono’s hedge fund, Elevation Partners, based in California. If he got a job there, then you bet I’m there. So if anyone has a Bono connection please let me know.
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